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Noah’s in town and I took him to Fort Funston and Bernal Heights summit, two places he’s never been. I’ve tagged along with him on photo jaunts for 10 years and it still makes me smile to see him become giddy about being someplace inspiring to work. It’s astonishing to watch an artist make their craft and just love it. Also, it never gets old when he shares a portrait of you the next morning.

noahkalina:

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20140427

Noah’s in town and I took him to Fort Funston and Bernal Heights summit, two places he’s never been. I’ve tagged along with him on photo jaunts for 10 years and it still makes me smile to see him become giddy about being someplace inspiring to work. It’s astonishing to watch an artist make their craft and just love it. Also, it never gets old when he shares a portrait of you the next morning.

An Islay cherry blossom. This is an evergreen cherry that once grew wild on the San Francisco peninsula. The fruit was an important ingredient for a fermented drink made by the native Ohlone people. Spanish settlers borrowed the Ohlone word to name the Islais Creek along which the trees grew. Later, the city’s slaughterhouse industry was zoned next to the creek and it was common for them to dump their waste into it, earning the nickname ‘Shit Creek’. After the 1906 earthquake, the creek was filled in with debris and ultimately became Cesar Chavez Street. A portion of the creek still flows in Glen Canyon Park.

An Islay cherry blossom. This is an evergreen cherry that once grew wild on the San Francisco peninsula. The fruit was an important ingredient for a fermented drink made by the native Ohlone people. Spanish settlers borrowed the Ohlone word to name the Islais Creek along which the trees grew. Later, the city’s slaughterhouse industry was zoned next to the creek and it was common for them to dump their waste into it, earning the nickname ‘Shit Creek’. After the 1906 earthquake, the creek was filled in with debris and ultimately became Cesar Chavez Street. A portion of the creek still flows in Glen Canyon Park.

1. Your wife will, at some point in the first year, go through some form of identity crisis. She’s no longer a sister, daughter, friend, or wife—she’s a mother. And however much a blessing that is, the nuances will screw with how she perceives the world and vice versa. When she’s locked herself in the bathroom over something seemingly trivial (no doubt fueled by exhaustion) and is ranting about who she is and what she’s become, be ready with kleenex and ice cream when she opens the door.

2. As much as you’re partners, your wife has 80% equity to your 20% (and the corresponding responsibilities). Your job is to be *great* dad, but in the early days it’s to be an *amazing* husband. PS. See point 1.

3. Sticking with the business metaphor: your kids are employees. You are owners. The company started long before with you and your wife and will keep going strong after the kids ship off to school. Kids are, oddly, temporary in a way that your spouse isn’t (or shouldn’t be). Yet so many couples build their lives *around* their kids, rather than *with* their kids. Subtle and overt pressures make this easy—like workaholics, you’re celebrated for how you slave over children—but over time this focus channels too much energy away from the core and couples drift, often putting their emotional needs into their children (who for many years easily give that energy back and replace the spouse). Be mindful of this. Remind yourselves that in order for the kids to be healthy, you both have to be healthy, with each other. Create this pattern from day one and never stop.

Court and I are 8 weeks out from being parents. I’ve been asking men I admire for advice  to prepare. This was one reply from an entrepreneur I correspond with regularly. 
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Because of DIY, I just discovered my just turned five year old can read and write. I made him a profile so he could participate in DIY with his big brother. He’s been on it constantly, messing around, posting garble, or so I thought. When I took a closer look, however, I realized he’s captioning all his videos and photos with phonetic spelling..and he seems to be completing some of the challenges all on his own. Thanks for the motivation, DIY!